Not long ago, I was a teenager, and I'm amazed at how much I've changed since those perplexing years.
My own adolescent experiences and how I dealt with them have shaped who I am today. I would give five pieces of advice to any teenage girl reading this:
1. Don't let others define your self-worth:
There's a lot more to life than being slender, pretty, or popular. Concentrate on developing your own personality and identifying your own long-term objectives. Your adolescent years are the ideal time to establish the foundation for your future career and professional goals. It costs nothing to fantasize or plan. Remember that your fate is in your control if you are insecure about your beauty, popularity, or socioeconomic situation. Turn your setbacks become a motivation for the future.
In my case, coming from a frugal family, suffering crippling acne and low self-esteem led me to believe that my passage to success depended on excelling academically and working hard. As I moved through my university years and into an independent career, I built up my confidence and belief in myself. Today I feel that nothing is beyond hard work and dedication.
2. Surround yourself with good people:
Whether it is family or friends, surround yourself with those that inspire and motivate you. The most popular, yet shallow girl in the school may appear like a rainbow leading to the pot of gold but if she is not a nice person, she will not make you feel nice about yourself.
Coming from a poor background, suffering from debilitating acne, and having low self-esteem led me to feel that my only path to success was to achieve academically and work hard. I gained confidence and belief in myself as I progressed through my undergraduate years and into an independent profession. Nothing, in my opinion, is beyond hard work and devotion nowadays.
3. Become financially savvy:
It is never too early to learn the value of money. Start working as early as you can, even if it is only a few hours on the weekends. Not only is the experience worth more than the dollars it earns you, but making your own money will help you understand the value of hard work that goes into every dollar that pays for that jacket you just have to have.
When you are older, perhaps a student struggling with bills, or you want to go on an OE, or you want to buy your first home, being financially savvy, if not totally independent, will set you above your peers and give you that edge you need in today's world.
4. Volunteer:
Nothing beats a little perspective to realize that, despite your challenges, you are a really fortunate individual. A smart place to start is your local animal shelter or your school's impaired students center. Volunteers are always needed, and it's a great way to widen your horizons and meet new people.
Because of an injury when I was in high school, I was able to avoid PE. I spent my time reading to the youngsters in my school's impaired class. It was a really tiny gesture on my side, but the youngsters had a great time and their caregivers appreciated my time.
5. Smile:
Last but not least, don't forget to grin. A genuine smile is more appealing and captivating than anything else. It facilitates introductions and talks. Consider how many wonderful individuals and possibilities you are missing out on because you are introverted and shy.
Yes, I understand how difficult it is to force yourself to be outgoing if it is not your natural state. But, guess what? It is said that practice makes perfect. You'll understand what I mean when your self-assurance earns you your ideal job or introduces you to the love of your life.
Some of these lessons I learned as a teen, and others I wish someone had told me when I was younger. I hope it becomes useful.